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Cis-Men Can’t Be Feminists: I’m Cisman



I don’t think cismen can be feminists. Feminism belongs to womyn. All power within feminism belongs to womyn.I do not need to be a face for feminism anymore than a white dude needs to be aface for black nationalism. Feminists don’t need my “male legitimacy” to be a force. Therefore, being a cis dude, I will identify myself as pro-feminist rather than A feminist.

To be completely honest this is little more than a play on semantics. Whether you identify as a feminist ally or you consider yourself to be a male feminist, it does not effect where you stand or how you effect the world around you.

Being a feminist does not make you the face of feminism. Being a Black nationalist does not make you the face of Black nationalism. It simply makes you an individual who adheres to such an ideology.

No, Feminists may not need “male legitimacy” to be a force. Black nationalists may not need “white legitimacy” to be a force either. These movements are already fully aware of the predicament that women and Black people are in. However, there are still many individual women and Black people in the world who are completely unaware of certain issues, or if they are aware of the existence of an issue, they are unaware that there is a means of changing things for the better or that there are those who would be willing to stand beside them in their effort to change things. If you are a man who is aware of feminism, or a white person who is aware of Black empowerment, then it is your responsibility to not deprive others of this knowledge. To refrain from sharing what you know is oppressive. Period.

Furthermore your argument is based on the presumption that a person who wants to be involved in a revolutionary movement also wants to be a prominent leader in that movement, to receive special attention, etc. I identify as a feminist and I seek no such thing. In fact, you seem to be the one who is doing just that. You seem to be seeking brownie points from the social justice crowd by rewording a few things with a fallacious emotional appeal, which does not accomplish anything in reality.

If you want to help, go argue with the anti-abortion crowd and help educate the masses. Fight those who wish to deprive women of the right to birth control and other forms of contraceptives. Donate your time and money to charities which provide financial support and other forms of aid to single mothers and the likes. Protest businesses and other organizations which discriminate against women. This helps.

Arguing with your own crowd over who is or is not entitled to mere labels does not help anybody. There are far more pressing issues which we could and should be discussing. Rather than telling men that they cannot be feminists, tell them that they cannot and will not be tolerated if they rape, harass, objectify, subjugate, belittle or in any way attempt to systematically oppress women or anybody else, because this is what truly matters.

The problem I see with your argument is that you’ve seemed to overlook how individuals holding privilege over an oppressed group INCLUDING themselves in the movement of the oppressed affects it.

Whether they like it or not, their thoughts and opinions will automatically be taken as more legitimate. These privileged individuals who have taken up space in a marginalized individual’s movement will have their voices heard more, and that hurts the movement of said people because now their voices have been quieted.

I agree with the OP. Pro-feminist is the way to go.

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“In many ways, feminine women are privileged in relation to masculine women; they are not privileged in relation to masculine men. Being at least a little feminine is still the norm for women. We all know what women who are not feminine are seen as: deviants. We know the concrete effects a lack of femininity has on a woman’s earning potential and on her social status in a community. The problem is: once a woman embraces femininity, society slots her into that category, and refuses to let her out. A woman stops being taken seriously, when she is feminine. She is regarded as silly, inconsequential, and not-suitable for serious work. A catch-22 therefore exists for women: refuse to be feminine and miss out on employment and social opportunities, fail to have your own ownership of your gender identity acknowledged — or be feminine and be pigeon-holed as a bimbo. Feminists fight back against the femininity paradox by simultaneously deconstructing femininity as the default expression for women, as well as defending feminine women as serious beings, equal in worth to their colleagues. There needs to be a way for feminine women to be acknowledged as feminists within the culture at large. This means expanding the definition of what a feminist is.”

Hi-C Educates the Masses: Feminine While Feminist

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I’m by no means an expert on the dynamics of feminism, but I thought this quote was pertinent.

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I love Tumblr, I love how much more eloquent people can be compared to me. 

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LGBTQ* Spoken/Written Word Artists You Should Know

Alix Olson ”Eve’s Mouth”

Now, we’ve got Cinderella, she’s chilling at home
quite content with being alone. 
She is playing with the mice and singing with the birds and they’re the only ones who ever heard these words. 
She said “I’ll get in the damn pumpkin. Do it all right,
weep and lose my slipper, freak out at midnight. 
But there’s one thing that the prince might not like, 
it’s the Fairygod I’m after. 
I’m a dyke.”

Now we’ve got Rapunzel, she’s chilling in the tower, waiting for the handsome prince 
she’s sapped of all her power. 
Finally, one day, the handsome prince in town 
called up to Rapunzel, “Yo girl, let it down!”
But our dear Rapunzel was nowhere to be seen, 
yes our dear Rapunzel had learned something keen.
“All that time alone kinda taught me how to cope, 
so I shaved my head and I made me a rope!”

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[TW TALK OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE]Bibi Aisha, shown here in 2010, lived in a women’s shelter in Kabul for several months after her husband cut off her nose and ears. Women who flee domestic violence in Afghanistan are often imprisoned.

Kate Brooks (What War Looks Like)
It’s absolutely atrocious something like this happens, but even more so that the victims are blamed instead of being helped. I would say unbelievable, but it’s a shame I’m no longer surprised. 


[TW TALK OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE]Bibi Aisha, shown here in 2010, lived in a women’s shelter in Kabul for several months after her husband cut off her nose and ears. Women who flee domestic violence in Afghanistan are often imprisoned.

Kate Brooks (What War Looks Like)

It’s absolutely atrocious something like this happens, but even more so that the victims are blamed instead of being helped. I would say unbelievable, but it’s a shame I’m no longer surprised. 

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“I know sex workers with more feminism in their clit rings than you’ve got in your entire gender studies department.”

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This is one of my favorite quotes ever.

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This is honestly one of the best things I’ve ever fucking seen. CAN I SAY THIS???

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You know, I don’t normally reblog this kind of stuff, but seriously?  You win an internet, my treat.

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“The more homophobic we are as a people, the further removed we are from any kind of revolution. Not only must black lesbians and gay men be committed to destroying homophobia, but ALL black people must be committed to working out and rooting out homophobia in the black community. We begin to eliminate homophobia by engaging in dialogue with the advocates of gay and lesbian liberation, educating ourselves about gay and lesbian politics, confronting and correcting homophobic attitudes, and understanding how these attitudes prevent the liberation of the total community.”

Cheryl Clarke “The Failure to Transform: Homophobia in the Black Community” (1983)

This essay was phenomenal. She gives a very severe verbal lashing to heterosexual black “intellectuals and politicos” as she refers to them as who she claims are perpetuating most of the homophobia present within our communities. she tears into bell hooks’ Ain’t I A Woman book (which hooks then responds to in Feminist Theory).  I can’t say that I completely agree with every criticism she made of hooks but Clarke definitely calls for the end of bullshit, the end of black heterosexual privilege and the end of black intellectuals skipping over or completely ignoring the presence of black lgbtq individuals.

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“The cultural ideals of butch are so much newer, so much more nebulous, and yet we seem to know when it’s being done well. When people speak admiringly of a butch, what I see is someone who has taken on the best gendered characteristics of both woman and man, left a lot of the stuff born of misogyny and heterosexism behind, and walked forward into the world without apology.”
— S. Bear Bergman


The Challenge to Change

Given the chance to change something, what would you do with $140?

At seven years old, Malcolm, a boy from Los Angeles, California, chose to donate it to two charities, the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Center and the Human Rights Campaign

A Letter From Our Littlest Champion ( L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center)

Malcolm’s mom enclosed a note explaining our tiny champion a little more:

'To teach the importance of improving the world around him, Malcolm was given $140 to give away to the charity of his choice. After hearing a story on the radio about the mistreatment of gays and lesbians, Malcolm became both upset and curious about the issue…to help, he chose to split his money between the L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center and the Human Rights Campaign Foundation.'


Wouldn’t it be wonderful if everyone had it in their heart to follow the example of this enlightened 7-year-old?

His mother thought so. She gave us permission to use Malcolm’s story and challenged the Center to raise $27,000 in his name!

Malcolm’s contribution, regardless of how small, has kick-started a movement. Even the tiniest of raindrops can cause a ripple. 


In Response To Those Who Question Marching

For every social group that has ever been oppressed, harassed and persecuted, a certain pride exists. This is not for the purpose of bragging about ones self-identity, nor about declaring superiority over other sexualities, identities or genders. This is a celebration of survivors, and for those who didn’t get the chance to.

"I’m here. I’m alive. I’m still fighting."

Pride is a celebration of a struggle that has been going on for hundreds of years. Not only within the LGBTQ community, but also in other social, religious and ethnic groups. (Think: Irish, Jews, Blacks, Hispanics).

The Pride movement combats the shame brought on by the oppression and persecution of the LGBTQ community. Self-hate is an unhealthy addition to anyone’s identity, especially since this is something that is evolving through out our entire lives. 

This struggle is one of civil rights. 

[[ Civil Rights is defined as: Equal treatment of all people with respect to protection of the law and to the enjoyment of life, liberty, and property. ]]

In truth, I don’t believe the Civil Rights Movement ever ended. It cannot end when the LGBTQ community still faces hate crime, discrimination, sexism, racism, bullying in schools, police brutality, “Aversion Therapy”, DADT, and youth and adult suicide (plus many more, but then I’d run out of space).

Society has failed the child and adult who have found suicide as their only option for escape from harassment.

Even in the past, there has been the persecution of homosexuality. The Holocaust had it’s own genocide of homosexuals. Today, world wide, certain countries target transgenders with an effort to punish them for something they have no control over. This is only a small view into the horror that is found everywhere.

With all of that in mind, I’ll be damned if anyone questions my right to march.

I’ll graffiti the world rainbow and scream of injustice until my lungs bleed.

And then march. the fuck. on.

Hysterical, Don’t You Think?

Where language trips us up…

Hysterics - These fits take place, for the most part, in young, nervous, unmarried women… . Young women, who are subject to these fits, are apt to think that they are suffering from “all the ills that flesh is heir to;” and the false symptoms of disease which they show are so like the true ones, that it is often exceedingly difficult to detect the difference. The fits themselves are mostly preceded by great depression of spirits, shedding of tears, sickness, palpitation of the heart, &c… . The patient now generally becomes insensible, and faints; the body is thrown about in all directions, froth issues from the mouth, incoherent expressions are uttered, and fits of laughter, crying, or screaming, take place. When the fit is going off, the patient mostly cries bitterly, sometimes knowing all, and at other times nothing, of what has taken place… .


Beeton’s Book of Household management, 1859-61.

Taken from Margaret Atwood’s novel, Alias Grace.


IWillNotShaveMyVagina recently made a post regarding the use of “hysterical.”

I was surprised, but I’m guilty as charged with my word usage.

I was actually thinking about the implications of the word hysteria the other day (the vibrator was purportedly invented to aid in “curing” women of hysteria (the cure= orgasms)… how dreadful if you really think about it), but then I went and used the word. 

Much like many races have their taboos, the feminism movement definitely needs to be wary and educated on these types of things.

Who knows… I’m not married, so if I’m not careful, I may just develop the hysterics.